“Couples Synergy – Real Couples, Real Stories”

Our signature interviews with Real People who share about their relationship experiences from dating to commitment issues, infertility to adoption, surviving affairs and the death of a spouse, among a few.


Dr Ray and Jean discuss common relationship issues and give helpful advice about ways a couple can go about changing their relationship right now.


Interviews with experts such as Divorce Attorneys, Sex Therapists, Health Coaches, Financial Advisors and more.

“Couples Synergy – Real Couples,

Real Stories”

Dr Ray and Jean share their expertise in working with thousands of couples. They discuss a variety of topics such as infidelity, sexual health, communication, infertility, finances, grief, suicide and much more! They also interview everyday couples about their love story, as well as host experts such as Divorce Attorneys, Sex Therapists, Health Coaches, Financial Advisors and more.

The 3 Core Relationship principles we stand by:

The Law of Attraction or “Like attracts Like”

Until you learn your piece of the pattern, you will continue to attract partners with similar issues. By healing what’s wrong in your current relationship you won’t repeat it in a subsequent relationship.


Our goal is that you both become whole and healthy within your relationship. Your partner is the perfect person to help you learn how to change, even if you end the relationship. Doing this work will positively change all your relationships for the rest of your life!

Refraction or “Exercising your power”

How you influence and contribute to the relationship is your source of power. We are all designed to see outward rather than inward. What others reflect back to us is distorted or refracted. Couples Synergy teaches you how to see yourself. When we first meet a couple, both are very clear about what each person believes his or her partner needs to change.


However, the power to change is inside you, not in changing your partner. You have the power to change and effectively respond to the things that you cannot change.

The Plenary Connection or “You just don’t get me”

All the complexities of communication including biology and learned behaviors unknowingly contaminate communication. Most people report at the first meeting that they feel misunderstood, unfairly judged and invisible in the relationship.


Communication has become an endless dance that always ends up in the same stalemate. We’ll help you identify the problems in your communication and learn more effective ways of completely connecting with one another.

The 3 Core Relationship

principles we stand by:

The Law of Attraction or “Like attracts Like”

Until you learn your piece of the pattern, you will continue to attract partners with similar issues. By healing what’s wrong in your current relationship you won’t repeat it in a subsequent relationship.


Our goal is that you both become whole and healthy within your relationship. Your partner is the perfect person to help you learn how to change, even if you end the relationship. Doing this work will positively change all your relationships for the rest of your life!

Refraction or “Exercising your power”

How you influence and contribute to the relationship is your source of power. When we first meet a couple, both are very clear about what each person believes his or her partner needs to change.

We are all designed to see outward rather than inward. What others reflect back to us is often distorted or refracted. Here at Couples Synergy we provide the tools to teach you how to see yourself.

The power to change is inside you, not in changing your partner. You have the power to change and effectively respond to the things that you cannot change.

The Plenary Connection or “You just don’t get me”

All the complexities of communication, including biology and learned behaviors ,unknowingly contaminate communication. Most people report at the first meeting that they feel misunderstood, unfairly judged and invisible in the relationship.


Communication has become an endless dance that always ends up in the same stalemate. We’ll help you identify the problems in your communication and learn more effective ways of completely connecting with one another.

Who are we? 

When relationships form between two people, a separate and unique entity is created, called the “couple personality”. This union of two individuals into something greater is also called, “synergy”. It is this synergy in a relationship that provides the excitement and passion a couple feels when they first come together.


Over time, however, this synergy can stop growing, especially when time and energy are not dedicated to the relationship. External influences and obligations can further erode this synergy causing a disconnect within the “couple personality”.


The Couples Synergy Program, developed by “power couple”, Dr. Ray and Rev. Jean Kadkhodaian, teach couples how to re-energize and improve the synergy within their relationship. It provides the tools and guidance needed to bring back the excitement and passion the couple once felt for each other.

Who are we? 

Both born and raised in the Chicagoland area, Dr Ray and Jean met at work as professional counselors in 1996 and began dating on February 21st, 1997. After their first date they quickly began a relationship, fell deeply in love and have been inseparable ever since. During that year Jean took Ray on his first hike. They went camping, skydiving, scuba diving and attended several concerts. They even crashed several weddings making sure to get a picture with the bride and groom.


On September 9th just 7 month later, Dr Ray and Jean got engaged and were married on Valentine’s Day, February 14th 1998. Jean’s son Alec was 10 years old when they married making them an instant blended family. Later that year they had their second son Dinyar.


After obtaining their Masters degrees they both became certified in hypnosis and began work with clients to help them grow personally and spiritually, which is their professional foundation to this day. Dr Ray went on to get his doctorate in Clinical Psychology. Both Jean and Dr Ray work with men and women focusing on personal empowerment with consideration and compassion for their partner. Dr Ray and Jean founded and have been running a successful counseling practice in the Chicagoland area called The Lighthouse Emotional Wellness Center since 2002 which focuses on working with couples and families.

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