Welcome to "Connections",

an online community supporting growth on all levels

physical, emotional, mental and spiritual

Once a person begins on a journey of awareness and growth that passion needs to be fed or it begins to erode. "Connections" is a convenient way to stay connected and to grow with us.

FREE For 30 Days

$35/month afterwards

Growth in relationships starts with growth in the relationship with yourself.

Couples Synergy certainly opened up our lines of communication. We both agree that we are more sensitive to each others needs and feelings. Also when we do have disagreements they are much more productive and easily solved. Quite honestly you have given us the tools to have a successful marriage and we haven’t been happier.

Working with us at

Couples Synergy is easy: 

Join connections and reach new levels of personal growth!


There is no greater feeling than to level up. Our webinars offer incredible opportunities and challenges for optimal growth personally, professionally and in our relationships. We are only as powerful as what we know.

We will continue in the same patterns until we learn something new. Feel stuck? Feel like no matter how much activity you do you find yourself in the same place?

Join us and get moving

Its FREE


Everyone who wants to be their best learns to use the tools of meditation. We often hear "I am not good at it" or "its too hard"

Join us weekly to unlock the secrets and power of meditation. Tap into your own inner wisdom, regulate your emotions and open to possibilities which will enhance all aspects of your life. People from all over the world attend, it is interactive and incredibly rewarding! 

You can do this!


With over 42,000 downloads and 100+ episodes, “Couples Synergy – Real Couples, Real Stories”

podcast features Dr. Ray and Jean where they discuss common relationship issues and give helpful advice about ways a couple can go about changing their relationship right now. Listen to one of our most popular episodes, Episode 8: Three Yellow Flags in a Marriage

Grow intellectually

One of the reasons people continue to seek out help from us long after they have learned the basic skills of creating a powerful relationship, is that they also learned that they were asleep in their lives or unconsciously living. No one ever knows the moment when they fall asleep. *Stay awake *Keep learning, *Keep becoming.

Grow Emotionally

A lot of time and attention was given to developing intellectually through years of schooling. Little emphasis was placed on learning emotional regulation and development. All decision we make are based on an emotion. When we are unaware of our emotions we lose our power and become reactive. You can only connect with your partner as deeply as you are connected to your own inner-self through emotions. Emotion is the language of relationship.

Grow Spiritually

The most powerful aspects of Couples Synergy was I was given access to new perspectives in my life and my marriage. New ways of understanding myself, my spouse, and our relationship. Please give yourself the opportunity to heal.


Dr. Ray & Jean can’t promise that healing will keep you together or send you in separate directions, however, after the healing whatever is decided will come from a peaceful heart. Healing through the Couples Synergy Program gave us access to what we did not know and that made all the difference. - Jim & Vera

We focus on the three pillars of your being to birth new light and love into your life! 

Grow intellectually

One of the reasons people continue to seek out help from us long after they have learned the basic skills of creating a powerful relationship, is that they also learned that they were asleep in their lives or unconsciously living. No one ever knows when they fall asleep. We are not conscious of when we fall asleep. We live in a time that everything is vying for your attention.

Grow Emotionally

There are screens everywhere. Your phone buzzes in your pocket, the gas pump station feeds you the news as you fill up your car. Almost every restaurant you visit has multiple TVs on multiple stations in every direction.

People will be sitting on the couch watching TV while working on their laptop at the same time as texting on their phone…three screens deep. Our minds crave distraction, like our bodies crave pizza, wine and chocolate.


Screens take us away from where we are and dump us into a black hole of endless searching and nothingness as our real lives slip by unnoticed, while we are distracted, which lulls us into an unconscious sleep while we are wide awake.

Grow Spiritually

The most powerful aspects of Couples Synergy was I was given access to new perspectives in my life and my marriage. New ways of understanding myself, Vera, and our relationship. Please give yourself the opportunity to heal. No one can promise you anything. 


Jean and Ray can’t promise the healing will keep you together or send you in separate directions, however, after the healing whatever is decided will come from a peaceful heart. Healing through the work Jean and Ray offer gave us access to what we did not know and that made all the difference.

Who are we? 

Dr. Ray & Jean have been married since Valentine's Day in 1998, and in 2002, they CoFounded the Lighthouse Emotional Wellness Center, a counseling center in the Chicagoland area. After working with thousands of couples, they created and perfected a unique approach to coach couples to have amazing relationships, called Couples Synergy. Dr. Ray & Jean both have Master's degrees in Clinical Psychology, and Dr. Ray has an additional doctorate in Clinical Psychology. They have two grown sons and a daughter-in-law, and are avid hikers and enjoy traveling the world and experiencing life together.


When it comes to relationships, they believe that they cannot teach it unless they live it. They are a real couple who have worked hard to create an amazing relationship through the difficult challenges life brings us all. Their knowledge and experience, not only comes from the couples they have helped, but from their own personal relationship, which they are very proud of.


In extension of their love for one another, Dr. Ray & Jean, bring their unique method called Couples Synergy to relationships all over the world. Couples Synergy teaches the critical self-awareness skills and effective conflict-resolution tools to create a strong and lasting foundation that is necessary to have a happy, successful and empowered relationship.


Learning the techniques taught in Couples Synergy will not only help you create an amazing relationship with your partner, but it will allow you to give your children a powerful role model that will influence generations to come. There is a reason why relationships are so complex since they involve all aspects of our being, mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.


We are excited to get to know you better and to share with you the secrets to creating a synergized relationship filled with abundance and love.

Who are we? 
At the time we worked with Dr. Ray and Jean our relationship was in a high state of crisis. Without their insights we could not have worked through our disconnection and inauthenticity. We would not have made it through the betrayal and into a relationship full of love and connection. We are forever grateful!


You probably prepared for your wedding right? – average investment in a wedding is $30K.

Not to mention the time and emotions of carefully making decisions to make your day special.

You probably have goals & future visions around your work, health, and family life. What about your relationship?


Are you both in agreement with common goals and future visions together to – so you share a common vision of the future?

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